I say about $50 for a wedding gift, plus the baby shower, but I wouldn’t have spent $135, but then again it depends how well you know the person.

Well, it’s obviously etiquette to gift a gift at the wedding, but the cost is up to you. Since you were already generous, and if the travel expenses are going to affect your regular budget, then I say go with a modest gift. You don’t have to break the bank for their wedding. If you are having financial difficulties, just get like a $25 gift from their registry and a nice card with a heartfelt message.

This is why in most cases, I will opt for the less expensive shower gift so I can splurge more on the wedding gifts. Of course, I also happen to be of the mind that showers are kind of silly and outdated, and couples don’t need that many gifts…but etiquette is a pain, huh?

Yes, both events require gifts. Usually a small gift is given for the shower and a bigger gift for the wedding. You have done the reverse.

I recommend a small wedding gift, maybe $50.

I think you give whatever your heart feels you should, subject to what your finances can afford. A $135 shower gift was generous, but does not mean you shouldn’t give a wedding gift when you attend. It is usually appropriate to cover at least what you believe the dinner costs, so $100 would be OK. Given your shower gift, $50 probably would also probably be ok.

I agree you should also give a wedding gift. A gift card to a chain restaurant if they are staying stateside for their honeymoon would be nice…like $25 or $50 to a Red Lobster or Steakhouse would be nice cause then they could get a meal on your for their honeymoon. Or it could be a nice newleywed dinner when they are home from their travels.

Well, I would have spent about $50 at the shower and then about $100 or more at the wedding. You still should spend $100 at the wedding I think.

Yes, you are supposed to bring a gift to the wedding.
I think you spent alot on the shower, I usually go $50 to $75 on a gift for the shower.
I would only give $50 for the wedding unless you can afford more.

What you give as a gift should be based upon what you can afford, not how much is enough. I had to travel and stay 2 nights for a wedding last month and my fiance & I still put $200 in the card without considering our costs to arrive there. If we couldn’t afford it, we would have given less.